New dads struggle post partum too.
I see new dads not knowing where to turn or thinking they are the only ones who are having a hard time with their new baby. I want to normalize this for you, so let’s discuss some of the struggles that men becoming fathers go through.
Is my anger a problem?
Maybe someone told you it was or it just feels out of control, but there is something about your anger that is making you ask this question. I’ll walk you through the anger issues that I typically see to help you answer: Is my anger a problem?
Q&A: Starting therapy for the first time.
If you are or plan to start therapy for the first time, you probably have some worries. These worries are likely unexplained questions that might not be on the F.A.Q. page of your therapist’s website, but are important and valid nonetheless.
Men’s loneliness.
Everyone seems to be experiencing increased loneliness in the last few years, there's no doubt. I am going to speak about the specific experiences of men’s loneliness here though because this seems to be unique and vast.
Managing anger in relationships.
You want so badly to just get along and have more ease in your relationship with your spouse. You find yourself repeatedly angry however, and managing anger in your relationship feels impossible. Let’s take a look at how anger might manifest in your relationship and 3 steps to address it.
How to deal with irritability.
Irritability is when you feel on edge, prickly, impatient, and quick to anger. It is annoying to be in this mood for yourself and the people around you. Let’s take a look at some ways you can deal with irritability more effectively.
Guilt after infidelity.
What happens when you are trying to fix things with your spouse after your infidelity, but you can’t stop feeling guilty? The guilt is haunting you. The guilt is getting in the way of repairing your relationship or marriage. As a therapist for men and couples, I need you to hear this.
Managing angry thoughts.
If you are someone who deals with anger management issues, you know the angry thoughts that go through your head can make anger much worse. One way to approach anger management issues is to target those thoughts. Let me tell you what you can do to manage them.
Is jealousy in a relationship healthy?
Jealousy in relationships is a common issue. Maybe you are the jealous partner or one who feels attacked by your partner’s jealousy; Wherever you’re coming from, I want to provide you some perspective on the feeling of jealousy, when it’s problematic, and what can be done on both sides.
Strategies of coping with stress.
Stress is a very normal feeling, but too much stress is when moments of relief from stress are far and few between. Learn more about 3 areas of coping with stress you might want to try.
Why do I suffer in silence?
To suffer in silence means to be alone in your pain. It means for one reason or another you are silent about what you are feeling inside. A likely reason is the messaging we receive about emotions, which is what I want to share with you. I bet you can relate to this.
How to be a better husband.
Most men I see coming to therapy are coming because of their relationships. They want to be better partners, husbands, or fathers. The people that love them are encouraging them to get support through therapy. This says something to me: men’s relationships are important to them, even critical to their lives.
Resentment in relationships.
How does resentment affect relationships?; How to deal with resentment in relationships; How to cope when the resentment is NOT worth addressing and what to do when it IS worth addressing.
How do you help someone with anger issues?
Anger is a perfectly normal emotion. We all feel anger at one time or another. What you’ve noticed though, is someone close to you, whether your spouse, friend, or family member, has anger management issues.
Tips for Building Self Esteem
You can see that you have these wonderful things going on for you. You should feel good and grateful, but you don’t. You want your confident self that everyone sees to match your insides. Here are some tips to get started building confidence.
Why should men go to therapy?
Remember that therapy or counselling is a tool to support you, build skills, and manage mood or just life. I answer the questions: ‘What are men coming to therapy for?’, ‘Should I go to therapy?’, and ‘What are the benefits of therapy?’
What to do when anger is justified.
One of the key components of anger management is identifying: Is my anger based on the facts or am I responding with anger because I have assumed some things? So what do you do when the anger IS justified?
Why telling men to “express their feelings” is not enough.
Men expressing their feelings is more complicated than “just do it”, “share how you feel!”. In this post I explore why telling men to express their feelings isn’t enough, and how we can approach improving mental health for men in ways that considers the more complicated reality.
Should a man see a male counselor?
Check out this guest blog from Travis Jeffords LCMHCA, MDiv. He shares what the actual scientific research says about male clients and the gender of the therapist they should see.
Low Self-Esteem in Men: 5 Tips to combat it.
Low self esteem means you lack confidence that who you are and what you do is good enough. Men who suffer with low self esteem may feel incompetent and inadequate in their relationships and daily lives. Here are some tools men can use to start to combat this.